The narcissist realises and resents his dependence on Narcissistic Supply. Moreover, deep inside, he is aware of the fact that his False Self is an untenable sham. Still, omnipotent as he holds himself to be, the narcissist believes in his ability to make it all come true, to asymptotically approximate his grandiose fantasies. He is firmly convinced that, given enough time and practice, he can and will become his lofty False Self.
Hence the narcissist’s idea of progress: the frustrating and masochistic pursuit of an ever-receding mirage of perfection, brilliance, omniscience, omnipresence, and omnipotence. The narcissist dumps old sources and triggers of supply because he is convinced that he is perpetually improving and that he deserves better and that “better” is just around the corner. He is driven by his own impossible Ego Ideal.
(From the book “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” by Sam Vaknin – Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
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SV you make the …
SV you make the crazy understandable. Your work has been a powerful tool for me. Keep it up.
Sorry. More …
Sorry. More specifically: isn’t the lack of adulation towards those individuals of great talent a potential cause of imbalance within society? Has a lack of honor and respect fostered the unhealthy societal condition of narcissism?
This is very …
This is very inspirational. Have you ever considered how a lack of respect towards talented people could have resulted in an imbalanced, narcissistic society? More specifically: isn’t the lack of adulation towards
how to tell if you …
how to tell if you have a belief from a truth truth will stand all facts and all beliefs and welcome them the truths knows it will stand .f it is not true it will welcome its fall.a beliefs will fall before the truth or other beliefs will changes. if what i say is not the truth,i welcome its fall knowing that is the only way to learn.is to let the false die.people with beliefs are always mad at other people they hold to that there beliefs are true,if there beliefs are false they would be a fool
what case, reality …
what case, reality shifts .when you are empty on the inside caring ,love , on top this governments,religions, mom dad have lie to you more like you been told belief`over truths . people are not good or bad. people do good or bad . as all people seek a unreal is a beliefs think of it is true . your is just a bit more pronounced . seek the real .people do not understand their beliefs is something untenable not real can not get or find it just up in there head .
You are the most …
You are the most articulate man I have ever listened to, and for you to share a personal insight was very generous of you, thank you .The little tid-bit about elevating the new N supply to make it worthy explains a lot
This is so …
This is so insightful!
This is a departure …
This is a departure.. the other videos are clinical, and while mr vaknin is the creator and presenter, the other videos aren’t about mr v per se. In this video he offers himself as the specimen for an insightful examination, and as such, he crosses a line between author and youtube personality. I enjoy both modes, but am most interested in the clinical content.
“We deserve better” …
“We deserve better” , I remember my ex-husband saying, when he made us sell our house that my children and I were so happy in. He later then said, all I want is to work close to my home, and then voila, they built a store 3 streets from our house, but this, too, was never enough! I will be happy to finally be rid of that way of life and build a new life not based on such anxiety and ever-shifting ground.
You should be proud …
You should be proud of your work! Wether or not a lie for fabulation your information is wonderfully helpful to many and as you say… they just get better and better! I await you next work.
Those fluctuating …
Those fluctuating views are so true. You have hit the nail on the head. I live with my parents who are both narcissist – both feed off each other. Since reading your book , I have coem to realise how they became one without getting upset and emotionally involved and entangled with it. YOur book and your videos have a remarkable insight to understanding and dealing with narcissism which we unfortunately could not avoid.
Pure intelligence …
Pure intelligence and clarity exudes from your description , you are truly an expert on the subject .Thanks ..
@528hertz Oh, …
@528hertz Oh, gotcha. Good Job Then.
Quite remmarkable . …
Quite remmarkable .. But if someone had a good ciritcism on your work .. Would you agree with that person and try too accept it by using rational thinking or rather try to mask it ?? ..And thanks again for a good material.
@528hertz N’s have …
@528hertz N’s have NO soul. That pretty much sums it all up. They are like empty shells. Not sure that I would call that Brilliant or Clever.